Rule Five Casual Sex Friday

Sometimes you just get the best juxtaposition of news story with Rule Five Friday.  This is one such, in which a young (and attractive) British woman describes her regrets over having gone through a phase in which her heels were distinctly round.

A British woman is speaking out about the dangers of casual sex, saying her romps with random men often ended in assault.

Kitty Ruskin details her harrowing experiences in her newly-released tome, “Ten Men: A Year of Casual Sex,” which she hopes will serve as a wake-up call about the realities faced by young women in an age where many males are addicted to violent pornography.

“Women are tired of shouldering all this fear and trauma,” Ruskin writes in the book, excerpted in the Daily Mail, revealing that she was raped by two different men while trying to be “liberated and fearless” in her sexual pursuits.

Yeah, for young women who are a tad short on the common-sense side, being liberated and fearless doesn’t always work out the way they’d hoped.

At the outset of 2019, when she was aged in her mid-20s, Ruskin made a resolution to “stop being so precious about who she had sex with,” believing she needed to make up for lost time after losing her virginity at 22.

“I decided to have sex with as many people as I wanted to,” she wrote, revealing she aspired to be like the empowered, promiscuous publicist Samantha Jones from “Sex and The City.”

“No more guilt. No more self-loathing. No more self-limitation. I was liberated and fearless. I was Samantha.”

Because fake television characters are always such great role models.

Look, when I was a young man, and single, I did my share of tom-catting around.  That’s what happened, those were the times, I made no bones about it and won’t apologize for it.  Mrs. Animal knows about those years and has no issue with it; since I met her I’ve been loyal and faithful, as it’s the right thing to do and I love her – she’s all I will ever need.  All of those times were before I met her.

But women in particular are more vulnerable than men in this world.  When I was tom-catting, I will admit, I never had anything to do with a girl who was drunk to the point of having her judgment imparted, and no one ever had to tell me twice to stop doing, well, anything.  That’s because even then, even at my youngest and randiest, I had scruples.  But young women aren’t offered the same options, and as a man with four daughters, I’m very aware of that – fortunately, they are of a very traditional bent as such things are concerned.

It’s a shame that culture led this young woman down this path.  Television and movies are all too likely to blithely present this kind of promiscuity as fun and harmless, as “Sex And The City” evidently did – I never watched a single episode.

Let’s hope Miss Ruskin’s example persuades some other young women to avoid this path.  But she gets one thing badly wrong, addressing her cautions about “rape culture” to “men,” in the broad sense.  It’s only a small minority of men who engage in this kind of behavior and believe me, nobody hates them for it more than those of us men who are above such things.

Miss Ruskin missed that, I think.